Linn Wøyen Lenes the doctor's message changed everything

Former “Ex on the Beach” participant Linn Wøyen Lenes (21) thought it was severe menstrual pain, but it turned out to be something else entirely.

In the podcast "Alterego with Linn and Pernille" the two girls talk about mental health in boys and girls, adolescence, love and heartbreak, sex and funny stories.

Good Evening, Norway spoke with the 21-year-old, and you can see what she says in the video window at the top of the page.

He got off to a good start because he was with other people and worked for 34 days through his system, which he found through an app.

- It's not unusual for me to have irregular periods, but then I wake up, and I'm in a lot of pain. It was so bad that I lay down on the sofa and cried, she tells Good Evening Norway in an interview.

She goes on to say that she has never had any particular pain related to menstruation.

Called the doctor
Then she understood what it could be and decided to contact the doctor and explain what had happened.

- Together we determine that it was a spontaneous miscarriage.

Lenes explains that everything felt surreal and that the pregnancy was not planned. Still, it felt strange, and she learned about the feelings when she took a poll on Instagram where a follower asked questions about spontaneous abortion.

— All of a sudden, I started crying. This could have been a baby, but I know that spontaneous abortions like this are normal, even if we don't talk about it much.

Do you have any questions about abortion?
The 21-year-old says someone asked her if she had had an abortion herself, which she never will.

— If I had gotten pregnant again, I would have done anything to keep it, she says, continuing:

— People should be allowed to do what they want with their bodies, and if someone doesn't want a child, they can have an abortion. But I personally wouldn't do it if I got pregnant again," she concludes.

Can be difficult to share
Good Evening, Norway got in touch with Trine Aarvold, who works at Sex and Society. She says it is not always easy to share the experience with others.

Spontaneous abortions are something that many people experience, and it varies greatly how people react to it. For some, it can be difficult to share with those around them. There may be many reasons why some people want to keep this to themselves, perhaps especially the expectation that you will get pregnant again, or that others may not know how to handle your experience.

Aarvold goes on to explain that she thinks it's great that those who feel comfortable talking about it out loud do just that.

- Then those who have had the experience feel less lonely. It's always good for those who have a platform to use it, because that might make it easier for others. This can help make spontaneous abortion an experience that more people can participate in and feel less lonely,” she says, continuing:

- Yet we don't expect everyone who has a voice to speak out about things they find difficult, and we understand that many people want to keep such experiences to themselves.

- I laughed in her place.
Best friend and podcast colleague, Pernille Bjørnseth Hansen, tells Good Evening Norway that it was hard to hear the story.

- At first I thought it was a bit surreal, but then I was really happy for her.

- I think it was hard to hear, but as her best friend I have to be there for her and support her as much as I can, something I know she would have done with me. I think it's totally rad that she's so open about it on the internet, and think she's a good role model for younger and older people.

Will be a positive experience
Lenes is overjoyed at the positive response and says it's easy to think you're alone, but that's not the case.

- I think it's amazing that when people choose to be open about it, it's received positively. It helps make openness a positive experience rather than something negative, which in turn leads to more opportunities for openness and less taboo. It's so easy to think you're alone, but you're not. Long live good and openness, she says.